Lack Of Commitment Your Relationship? Here’s What Will Change His Commitment For You?
Author: Elaine Bothwell
Lack Of Commitment In Your Relationship?- Here’s What Will Change His Commitment For You
Lack of commitment frustrating you? If you are happily dating your dream guy then it stands to reason that you’ll want him to commit to you as a sign that he wants the same things you do together. But what happens if despite the fact that you love him and he loves you, he’s not as committed to you as you’d like- is the relationship doomed?
You and I both know that a commitment fear is the biggest headache for women, and unless a man commits then nothing can come of the relationship – it goes no where and you’ll eventually have to start over. So can you get a guy who has commitment phobia shall we say, to commit to you? Can you turn his commitment phobic reaction into a solid commitment for your relationship together?
You can if you do one thing and that is to love him, adore him, and if necessary worship him. No I don’t mean in a cloying and needy way, I simply mean show your love for him in a healthy way.
Let me illustrate.
Every man and woman has an ego, and for men it’s their most vulnerable part of their psyches – if you know how to handle this sensitive part of them then you have a man where you want him, and that means marriage and commitment if that’s what you want.
So how do you get there?
You already know about flattery most people fall for it, mainly because it feels nice, but for a man it goes further than feeling nice, it reinforces how a man wants to think of himself and because of that it’s his most vulnerable aspect of himself.
So you start by thinking about what makes your man feel good, great and manly. When you’ve done that then you give it to him as much as he needs. It’s like fattening up a pig to get the best meat from him, only with our guy he isn’t going to be slaughtered, he’s going to be loved up.
He’s going to be so loved that he won’t be able to function without the woman who finds the key to this part of his being, its addictive.
And it’s easy to spot.
Just observe what makes him feel special- what are those things you have said that made him want to help out more, or made him do things he’s never done before.
Write them down and feed them back to him and voila- your man is now going to be seriously thinking about committing to you because as far as he is concerned he’d be stupid not to.
So, whilst the term men and commitment don’t usually sit well together, by doing as I suggest above commitment issues could be a thing of the past.
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Ooo you really “hit the spot” talking about EGO
That is so true 
Hi I’ve listerned to you tape and all sounds well and good, except my man that I’ve been living with for a little over a year is a very scared man. He never was married. Came from a very bad backround, parants drank and were abrusive. He has sessional depression, and he rearly smiles. I tell him that he’s handsome and he looks good. I try to make him laugh and I even try to tickel him and he dosen’t like that. He said that he loves me and that he’s in love with me but not the same way that I’m in love with him. When I ask what does he mean, he saids that he dosen’t have the qualitys in him as I. For I come from a very loving family. I don’t think he knows how to love? He has good qualities and means well. I ask him all the time if he feels that maybe I should move out and he tells me no. He’s not very affectionate. Sometimes he’ll put his arms around me an gives me a kiss. Or a kiss on my forehead. He always tells me that he loves me. But when I mention the word Marriage, he goes through the roof. He dosen’t like me mentioning the word. He was never married, and is about to retire in the next few months. I love this man, I want to be his wife, but as far as he’s concerned he tells me don’t you like living like this, why? do we need that piece of paper. He said that he has no knowledge of marriage, I told him marriage is just like the way we are living and shareing everything together. He said we could have a happy life together this way. I can’t understand it. Also, he always lived alone, and likes being alone. He likes being together but he also likes being alone. He said that he thinks better this way. He like quiet and peace. Sometimes when I talk, he asked me not to talk because he likes silence? So try to figure out this one. How do you land a guy like this. Thanks for listering to me. Michele
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