Want to know how to read what’s going on in a guy’s mind?

Watch this second video and read the article to have some secrets revealed to you.

If you want to settle down with a guy it pays to learn how to read what’s going on in a guys mind and in part 1 we looked at what it means if a guy says he doesn’t want to settle down with you and the second most common question women ask is – what does it mean if a guy says he wants his space or he wants to be alone?  

So what is going on in a guy’s mind?

There are of course numerous ways in which you can look at this, but the two most common ways are 1.  Take him literally that he just wants some time alone- away from the busyness of everyday life- which is ok, or 2.  He’s telling you that something is missing in the way you both interact  and that’s why he needs his space.

There is a lot written about men needing to go into their cave especially when they are stressed and women have a hard time with this because when we are stressed we’re more likely to want to talk to someone about it,  yet men  seem to want to escape from us and we perceive this as him drawing away from us.

So does it mean anything ‘bad’ for you and your relationship?

Not necessarily – it could just mean that he needs time and space to think about things and when he’s done he will surface.  That being said, let me share with you something that a guy shared with me about what the ‘cave ‘ represents to him and what a woman has to do if she wants him not to withdraw so much into his cave.

Okay- The man’s cave is somewhere where he gets to feel free from life’s stresses and being around certain women can add to that stress.  He wants to feel that he doesn’t need to think too much, answer questions nor engage in a way that requires too much energy from him.

Now I know when I first understood this, it felt like the guy was actually saying, don’t bother me with anything that smacks of responsibility – don’t bother me with needing to talk.

And though that can be true depending upon the guy, in general a guy needs to be around a woman who makes it easy for him to relax, find his space and not heap too much pressure on him.

So now you’re closer to understanding what’s going on in a guy’s mind

It’s like this for women.  There are some of your friends that you don’t need to do anything with you can just hang out with them and there’s no pressure to talk, no pressure to sort anything out that maybe on your mind, there’s nothing but companionship and freedom to just be.

This is the equivalent for men when they go into their cave.

The trick is for you to be able to be with your man in a way that doesn’t require to want or need too much from him on occasion and that way he will not need to escape into his cave, and you won’t then need to feel that he’s withdrawing.

So one of the things you can do is to allow him to just be- and a good way of practicing this is for you to allow yourself to just be in the moment without needing to do anything in particular- this way it makes it easier for your man to open up with you, share his ‘space’ with you and keep that connection with you.

So does this help you understand better?  Let me know.

Until the next time…

Related Posts:

• How To Read What’s Really Going On In A Guys Mind pt 1
• Is He Really Into You? Are You Sure?
• Is There Anyway To Tell Whether I Have Got The Right Man Or Not?
• How Do I Stop Myself Falling For The Wrong Guy?
• Do Relationships With Relationship Bad Boys Last?

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