How do you stop yourself falling for the wrong guy?

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The short answer  to how do you stop yourself falling for the wrong guy is to have a certain level of objectivity about you when you are dating guys.  When you do this you are able to detect before things move on too quickly whether he’s the right man for you.

To explain further, objectivity is your ability to keep a measured distance between you and the guy you’re dating.  It’s a way for you to not give all your heart to someone who hasn’t passed the suitability test yet.  It’s a way to stop you from getting hurt, as much as is possible anyway.

Now what I am about to convey I know others don’t agree with, but I would say this has been true for me, so here goes.

What never ceases to amaze me is the tosh that’s peddled out there that says that you can’t help who you fall in love with.  Absolute TOSH! Of course you can help who you fall in love with, because as much as there is an attraction to someone it is only if you are open to falling in love with them, or doing something about the attraction which will get you to do the necessary actions.

Okay here’s an example.  I know married women who are happily married,  their husbands aren’t George Clooney or any other male Adonis,  but non-the-less, they love their husbands and wouldn’t dream of flirting, never mind cheating on them.

So do you think these married ladies go through life not being propositioned by other men?  Well of course not, and they don’t, they tell me that they are and frequently.  And do they do anything about these advances?  Only in so much as to tell the other guy that they are not interested.

Now some of these men are good looking, perhaps better looking than some of their husbands.  These men are usually much more attentive, you know what it’s like when you’ve been married for a long while, the men tend to get lazy.  These men listen to them more – but as much as these qualities are what the married ladies value, it’s what turned them on to their husbands in the first place, are they swayed by the attention?  No.

And the reason why?

They don’t and won’t allow themselves to fall for the wrong guy no matter how appealing he may seem.  Period.

So when you take that objective and distant stance, you are able to stop yourself falling for a guy until you are sure, which means you won’t take on board his patter, you won’t be swayed by his talk, you won’t buy into the dreams he spins you, until you are sure he’s worth giving your heart to.  And I repeat you won’t allow yourself to fall for the wrong guy.

And this my friend, is how you stop yourself falling for the wrong guy, be closed to them until you are sure he’s the right one for you.

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