How To Know If Your Boyfriend Is Really Attracted To You (pt1)
Author: Elaine Bothwell
Want to know if your boyfriend is really attracted to you?
Watch the video and read the article to get some answers.
Has the question- I want to know if my boyfriend really attracted to me- crossed your mind more than a few times?
Have you ever wondered why it is that sometimes when you like a guy he seems to back off even if you have been dating for a while and things have progressed?
Do you want to know why this happens and what you can do to make sure it doesn’t happen again to you?
Picture this- girl sees boy, girl likes boy, girl smiles at boy or make it known to him that she likes him. Boy approaches girl and they get talking. She now thinks the boy is attracted to her.
Over time girl makes boy the centre of her thoughts, builds up an intense desire to be with him and starts to fall for him.
But boy starts to back off a bit, he’s not as attentive as she thinks he ought to be.
Girl starts to question whether the boy is really attracted to her and now she feels insecure.
What if he really doesn’t like me? What if I’m making a fool of myself? How can I tell if he really is attracted to me and like me at all, she is now wondering?
Girl becomes obsessed with knowing and starts to become more intense- she needs to know if he likes her, she needs him to know that she likes him, she’s attracted to him and she believes that if he knew this he would feel the same for her. So she tells him and rather than reciprocate- he backs off.
She’s hurt, confused and her man confidence has been severely dented.
She wants to know why he did this. How she can avoid this again and what she has to do to make that guy have as strong a feeling toward her as she does to him?
So in this post- I’ll talk about why a guy backs off, and why the initial attraction stops because I know it will be on your mind.
A guy will back off because there are things you are doing that he doesn’t like. Simple really when you think about it like that. Think of you for instance. When someone – no matter how ‘nice’ they are, does something you don’t like or wants something from you that you don’t want to give, what do you do- you back off.
So in this situation, you have triggered in that guy the ‘run, run as fast as I can’ trigger
( remember the story of the gingerbread man?)
But what is it that you’ve done exactly?
1. You’ve professed your love or strong liking for him BEFORE he has even had a chance to get to know you.
2. You’ve slept with him too early on in the relationship- EVEN THOUGH he intimated that that’s what he wanted
3. You started thinking about the future with him as your mate BEFORE you had given yourself enough of a chance to get to know the real him
4. You started seeing you both as a couple when you weren’t at that stage yet.
5. You thought sleeping with a guy automatically meant the same to him as it does to you- i.e you were both in a monogamous committed relationship.
6. Your attempts to connect with him more only lead him to disconnect from you – though you didn’t realise this was what you were doing.
Obviously there are more reasons why, but you get the idea. You raced ahead before he had a chance to catch up and get on the same page as you, and this is a common mistake women make in relationships.
And because of these reasons and more, your guy hasn’t had a chance to be attracted to both parts of you- remember in a previous post I talked about what guys really want ( click here) if you rush things then the guy has only had chance to be attracted to the physical side of you and not the other sides of you.
And this will kill any chance of you and him having anything meaningful over the long term
Just to make sure you know the signs, here is what is likely to happen when a guy is backing off from you.
1. You feel insecure
2. You start to want to ‘talk’ more but fear it may scare him off
3. You doubt yourself
4. You want him to reciprocate your feelings and look to try and engineer this
5. He disengages from you
6. You see him less and less
7. You become more intense with him
8. You take a risk and tell him how you feel- he acts as if you hadn’t really said this and you get hurt.
Not pretty- but hopefully this will help you see those signs before you engage in pursuing a man when he’s not ready to be pursued.
Coming up in part 2 how to know if he is ready to be pursued, and what to do to avoid a guy backing off and you getting hurt.
Until the next time….
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