Is There Anyway To Tell Whether I Have Got The Right Man Or Not?
Author: Elaine Bothwell
Want to be able to tell if you have the right man or not?
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This must be the $1 million question because if every woman could tell before hand whether the man she was with was right for her or not before she became attached to him, then she wouldn’t ever get hurt- now wouldn’t that be great!
And as much as never getting hurt is a fantasy none of us will ever realise, we can come close by paying attention to the clues he leaves us and learning how to decipher them to help us avoid as much emotional turmoil as possible.
Those clues come from what he will say to us and in some instances what he doesn’t say.
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Clichés as clues
You’ve heard the common cliché ‘ My wife doesn’t understand me’ and we all know what it really means, it means that this man is looking to you to satisfy some need without him having to commit to you.
He’s telling you that you have not got the right man.
He can effectively go into that gorgeous cake shop, take his pick of all the nice cream buns, and not pay for a single one nor give anything in return for his enjoyment. And apparently the cake shop owner is so grateful that someone is eating her buns, those buns she slaved hours over to make, that she’s absolutely delighted to have someone eat them and enjoy them for free and at great cost to her.
Now as absurd as this scenario is, this is what goes on all the time when a man decides to use his lines on you with the sole aim of meeting some need he has but without putting in the effort or paying the price to get that need met.
( Another clue that you have not got the right man)
For instance, let’s say it is true that his wife doesn’t understand him, the price he may need to pay to get more understanding may involve him committing to her and spending time getting to know her, but maybe he just doesn’t want to spend that time.
Who knows, the thing is, there is always a price to pay for what we want, and if you get caught up with a man’s ‘lies’ then the price you pay is with your self worth, your self esteem and your confidence.
Is the price worth it for a bit of attention?
So back to the clues, they are everywhere, not hard to find at all. The primary place is in what this man says to you and of course the tone of voice he says it in. So listen out to any phrase that excuses his behaviour or advocate him not taking any responsibility for his actions.
(Another clue that you have not got the right man)
For instance, a phrase like, ‘Look I would love to take you out but I have to be up early in the morning so let’s stay in tonight and cuddle up on the settee’. Sounds nice and cosy doesn’t it, until you realise that what he actually means is ‘ oh I can’t be bothered taking her out and wooing her, lets just get down to action’.
Ouch when you see it like that.
Of course not every guy who says that is going to mean he can’t be bothered, what you do of course is take it in context and with other verbal clues he’s leaving. What about ‘It’s just a bit of fun, lighten up’.
Obviously this depends on what he’s referring to- but whatever it is, it is unlikely that you will see it as a bit of fun, because if you have to be persuaded that it is a bit of fun, then that notion escaped you, and maybe for good reason.
What a man says, tells you so much about him, and the clues are there for you to see, and 80% of them aren’t subtle or hidden, they are in plain sight.
All it takes is for you to keep your ears open and listen to what he is saying on the surface, and his possible message underneath, because when you do you will be in the enviable position of really knowing whether you do have the right man for you or not.
Speak to you soon
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