Want to know why it is so hard to let go of a relationship?

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It is so hard to let go of a relationship primarily because of the amount of emotional investment you have made in it.  And it doesn’t seem to matter whether you’ve been in a long term relationship or a short term one, what matters more is how much you have invested emotionally into it and this is one of the main reasons why it can be hard to let go of a relationship. 

There are so many things to consider that you won’t have thought about until you end a relationship, that really tell you how hard or easy it is going to be for you to let go of the relationship you’re presently in.

Firstly there is the length of the past relationship – because even if you hadn’t invested a lot emotionally in it, you will still be in the habit of  being with that person and that can take some time to get used to.  You have built your routine round him, you have your life intertwined with his, your thoughts have been modified to always include him, and when the relationship ends, you have to get out of that habit.

Think about it like this, when you go shopping, you will have known what were his favourite foods, which bits he didn’t like and you will have put some in your basket.  Now, when you go shopping you only need to think about what you like and need and not him so that takes some readjustment, letting go of a relationship can be challenging because of this.

Then there is what he used to do for you.

Maybe he used to massage your feet or always kissed you before you went to sleep, or some such other small thing that just doesn’t now feel right that you no longer experience it.  And this is the same whether you ended up ‘hating’ him before you broke up, these things are still there until they are replaced by something else.

There is of course the fall out if you didn’t choose to end the relationship, then you wouldn’t necessarily have prepared yourself emotionally for the end and thus, you will  need to go through the grieving process to get final closure on this.

For a lot of women, the habit of being with someone is bad enough to get over, but if you still have feelings for him that are in any way positive then it will be even more difficult to let go of that.  Plus with the added pressure of now being alone in life, at least for now, you have to cope with managing all of your emotions.

Which brings me onto my last point, even if you feel anger or rage toward him, you are still connecting yourself to him and it’s only when you let these feelings go and get closure, will you be able to let go of the relationship and move on. Reminiscing about the past, keeps you there, and as hard as it seems to let go, that’s exactly what you do need to do.

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