Want to know how to get over your ex?

Watch the video and read the article for some pointers to help you know how to get over your ex.

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The fastest, though not necessarily the least painful way of getting over your ex, is to have no contact with your ex what-so-ever.  Obviously this becomes difficult if you have children together or have other ties that mean you have to see your ex every day or so,  but if you don’t have to see your ex,  the best is the sharp, but effective, cut off all communication with him. 

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So to get over your ex the first thing to do is no answering of the phone, texts or emails, no sending of text, emails or phone calls.  No going past where your ex works, or where he hangs out, no talking about  your ex to your girlfriends- nothing.

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Now I know you may not feel you’re quite able to do this- yet, but if you could it would be the quickest way to get over your ex.

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And even if you do have to see your ex- you still need to know how to get over him and another good way is to start  thinking bad thoughts about him.

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Let me explain what I mean.

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When you went through your break up, depending on the circumstances that lead to that break up, you would have a mixture of anger and resentment, or relief.  Let’s say you felt angry that all your hard work came to this, your mind will be bringing up all the bad things he did which will have the effect of fuelling the fire and making you feel even worse.

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This type of thinking is not what I’m talking about here, because this one only makes you feel bad and act irrationally.  What I mean is the type of thoughts that justify why he was not a good match for you, but when you think about it, it doesn’t leave you feeling anger or resentment or any other negative emotion about him, it is just there to help justify why you made the right decision in the first place,  to end the relationship.

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Believe it or not, thinking logically and not emotionally about why your ex wasn’t such a good match for you is a great way to let go of the relationship you had with him and really helps you to get over your ex so you can move on.

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In order to be able to do this, you need to have already let go of the negative anger etc that may be there and get to a place where you can be more objective about him and how you were together.

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You see the negative anger etc is understandable but it only keeps you stuck feeling bad about your situation and doesn’t allow you to move on, to get closure, and that’s exactly what you need.  The best way to get this closure is not to wish your ex any ill will at all, and when you get to this place, always remind yourself that actually you were right to end things.  And this still works even if you didn’t end things.

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So for you  to get over your ex, first have no contact with him- if this isn’t possible for you, then start to let him go by not wishing him any ill will, not blaming him but reminding yourself that some of his behaviour didn’t work for you and that’s why you’re better off not having him in your life.

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Remember, as natural as it may seem to hold on to the anger or other negative emotions about him, it makes you suffer more and takes longer for you to get over him and move on, and the longer you take the longer it will be for you to meet and settle down with your Mr Right.

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