How do other women get nice guys?

Watch the video and read the article to find out what they know that you don’t yet.

If you have been reading the other posts in this series, you will know that attitude, and mindset are really important aspects of attracting and keeping your Mr Right, or at least being happy with the man you’re with.

So the question why you get so many jerks but other women seem to get so many more nice guys really comes down to your attitude and mindset which is fortunate because it’s something you can change.

Let me start of by telling you what I tell my clients, if they or you are not ending up with the kind of men whom you want to end up with, then you are being too nice.  And from the reaction I get from my clients, they don’t believe that they are too nice they believe the opposite in fact- which is interesting in itself.

But let me give you some further examples of what I mean when I say you’re being too nice.  You know when a man lets you down by cancelling reservations for dinner at the last minute- what do you do?  How do you react?

Well of course you could get angry, but later on do you start to excuse his behaviour depending on the ‘reason’ he had for cancelling?  It seems obvious that if he cancelled because of a family emergency then you’re more likely to excuse that behaviour than if he cancelled because he was going out with his mates.

But our Ms Nice gal, would still find a way to make excuses if she was stood up by her boyfriend if he went out with his mates and not her- believe me she would.

And this is one reason why you may find it hard attracting Mr Right.

Our Ms Nice Gal, would make small excuses in her head why he’s not treating her as well as he could, from he’s not had enough practice, or he’s been in bad relationships before and just has to get used to this one with her, to he’s stressed because of work pressures, you name it our Ms Nice Gal, will make excuses and be overly accommodating in this.

And that’s the other aspect of this, accommodating others persons wishes and wants above her own.  This is another sign of our Ms Nice Gal not understanding that even with a nice guy by your side there comes a point where you do have to put some of your needs first.

And this is the other shocker for my resident Ms Nice Gals, when I talk about putting their needs first, they balk at me and accuse me of wanting them to being selfish.  Tut, Tut, Tut.

My intention couldn’t be further from the truth, the fact of the matter is that unless you understand that by over accommodating other men’s needs above your own you won’t end up in happy relationship bliss,  you are open season as far as the relationship bad boys are concerned and you will find it  hard attracting Mr Right

So just to reiterate, women who get the nice guys have found nice balance between looking out for their man, and looking out for themselves and that’s why they end up with more nice guys than jerks.

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• Why Haven’t I Settled Down With Mr Right?
• What Is The Best Thing That I Could Do To Settle Down With Mr Right?