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Have you ever tackled a project that no matter what you tried, you just couldn’t get it to work the way you wanted it to?  It left you feeling frustrated because you thought you were trying all manner of things but nothing made the difference?  This is something of what it is like when you are in a dead end relationship.

It’s like no matter what you say or do, you feel as if you’re working really hard for nothing to change.  You look at him and you see a man who for you won’t change from one year to the next, and the relationship will be all it can be now and never move on.  And that’s the saddest part for you to realise, that what you have now is the best that you can get, is the best it will ever be.

In a dead end relationship you muddle along and he muddles along and no matter what you say or do, your plans never seem to get realised.  But because you may not yet know this, you may then react to the changes by exerting even more effort in a bid to move things along, to see some progress, so see some change,  but you don’t, well at least not enough.

Another hard thing about being in this kind of relationship is how you feel about your man.  Just because the relationship isn’t going anywhere doesn’t mean that you have fallen out of love with him or him you, it’s just that what you want and what he wants is not the same thing anymore and no matter how much you try, you can’t get him to follow your dreams, and he can’t get you  to follow his.

And it’s classic case of drifting apart.  At the beginning of any relationship if the couple had sat down and talked about their goals, their wishes and dreams, then each person would know where the relationship was headed and be able to assess whether they want to be part of the other persons journey.

But what tends to happen is that a couple will have this intention but as life takes over, it becomes obvious that both of the people in the relationship are headed in different directions.

So what else will tell you you’re in a dead end relationship?  Well if I ask you if you believe that what you want for your future is what he wants, would you say they are the same thing?  And even if he was willing to forgo his dreams, is he the sort to get behind your wholeheartedly?

There is a finite amount of time in some relationships before they expire, and one of the best indictors as to how much mileage there is in a relationship is seeing whether you both have dreams and wishes that are long term and if either of you can make those dreams your reality.

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